Family Respect Project

What is the Family Respect project?


Our Family Respect project is funded by the Office of the Police and Crime Commissioner (OPCC) for Cambridgeshire and Peterborough.

The project focuses on working with children and young people who display any abusive behaviours towards their parents and carers and other people in their family. The work is being led by YMCA Trinity Group through collaboration with the Police and Crime Commissioner and Respect UK.

The focus of our Family Respect project is to support families who are experiencing child to parent abuse with a particular focus on working with the child or young person to facilitate change and growth within the family.


Can I make a referral to Family Respect?

The project works with families who’s child or young person is between the age of 10 and 16 years old.  The family needs to have been in contact with the Police before a referral can be made.  The referral can be made directly by the police to Family Respect.  There are currently no referral pathways outside of the police referral pathway.

Perhaps a child or young person you know is showing physical or violent behaviours towards other people in their home? Maybe they have caused damage to items in their home, or to items which belong to someone else?  Have they used coercion and manipulation to control the freedom and choices of other people they live with? It could be that they use verbal insults or threats to other family members? Or perhaps the abuse focuses on stealing or demanding money, or other people’s property?

Abuse takes many forms, and the signs are often invisible to those on the outside of it.

If you know a young person between 10 and 16 years of age who needs support because of any abusive behaviours they are exhibiting towards their parents or carers, or towards other people in their home, this could be a well-suited programme for them to get involved with.

How does the Family Respect work take place?


Our Family Respect project works with the child or young person in a face-to-face environment (where this is possible) over several weeks, working with them as part of the solution, rather than viewing them as the problem.

Our intention is to rebuild family relationships and create long lasting change in for everyone in the family, by providing healthy and sustainable approaches to manage conflict.

If you’d like to talk to someone in the Family Respect team, please get in contact with the team by email:

What consent do I need to have from the family?


By submitting a referral to the Family Respect programme, it is a mandatory requirement and expectation that you have already gathered consent from anyone who has parental responsibility for the child or young person so that we can contact the family.

You must obtain consent from the young person themselves where they are able to give their own consent.

The consent must identify that the family agree to being contacted by the Family Respect project.

You must have gained this consent from all relevant people prior to the referral form being submitted to us.


Other sources of support available

PEGS has been set up to support both parents and professionals deal with the issues associated with child to parent abuse. They have awareness and training sessions help people to learn new tools and techniques when dealing with abusive children, what policies are out there to assist families, and what other support networks and frameworks exist in the UK.


The SEND VCB Project supports families of violent children who also have an additional need to help their child be happier & calmer.. They have over 300 success stories and a Facebook group for parents –


The Connective Parenting group is for any and all parents wanting a more connective way to parent. Based on the Non Violent Resistance or NVR approach it helps parents to connect with their child and manage any difficult behaviours gently. It is a therapeutic way of parenting that engages the child to develop positive self-confidence and helps create a harmonious family life. The group is supportive, not judgemental.


The POTATO group | Parents Of Traumatised Adopted Teens Organisation. are a UK based group of parents who have adopted our children from the looked after system in the past 20+ years


CAPA is an online platform for families impacted by child to parent abuse and professionals supporting them Child To Parent Abuse | Capa First Response CIC